A very common question, but answer is not simple, as among all humans, it is difficult to find a person who could say that he/she is happy with the life. Most of the times, life seems a combination of sorrows and happiness. Sometimes life looks as it is full of joy and other moment, there is only darkness around us. Well, bright or dark side are both part of life, but the real meaning of life would be clear when we learn that life is a precious thing and we should accept it and live it, as our creator want us to lead it. That way we can get the real happiness, whatever the situation we are in.
I love reading parables, because there is a lesson every time you can learn and implement it on your life. The parable I am quoting here is like an all time lesson for me, because I have read it many times, and found it very encouraging at the down times of my life. I want to share it with all, with this hope that it would be learning for you also.
I should admit that there was a time, I was not happy with my life, and many times I asked from myself or from God, why I am here or why it is happening to me?. I can say for sure that most of us do the same at down times. But the reality is that we cannot change what we have, to accept it as it is and be happy in it is the real meaning of life.
Read it and think!
Terribly Tragically Sad Man
(A modern parable by Loren Seibold)
Once there was a boy who lived in a big house on a hill. He loved dogs and horses, sports cars and music. He climbed trees and went swimming, played football and admired pretty girls. Except for having to tidy up after himself, he had a nice life. One day the boy said to God, “I’ve been thinking, and I know what I want to become when I become a man.
“What?” said God.
“I want to live in a big house with a veranda across the front and two St. Bernard dogs and a garden out back. I want to marry a woman who is tall and very beautiful and kind, who has long, black, hair and blue eyes, who plays the guitar and sings in a clear, high voice. I want three strong sons to play ball with. When they grow up, one will be a great scientist, one will be a politician and the youngest will be a professional athlete.
“I want to be an adventurer who sails vast oceans and climbs tall mountains and rescues people. And I want to drive a red Ferrari and never have to tidy up after myself.”
“That sounds like a nice dream,” said God. “I want you to be happy.”
One day, playing ball, the boy hurt his knee. After that he couldn’t climb tall mountains or even tall trees, much less sail vast oceans. So he studied marketing and started a medical-supplies business.
He married a girl who was very beautiful and very kind and who had long, black hair. But she was short, not tall, and had brown eyes, not blue. She couldn’t play the guitar, or even sing. But she prepared wonderful meals seasoned with rare Chinese spices and painted magnificent pictures of birds.
Because of his business, he lives in a city near the top of a tall apartment building that overlooked the blue ocean and the city’s twinkling lights. He didn’t have room for two St. Bernards, but he had a fluffy cat.
He had three daughters, all very beautiful. The youngest,who was in a wheelchair was the loveliest. The three daughters loved their father very much. They didn’t play ball with him, but sometimes they went to the park and tossed a Frisbee - except for the youngest, who sat under a tree strumming her guitar and singing lovely, haunting songs.
He made enough money to live comfortably but he didn’t drive a red Ferrari. Sometimes he had to pick up things and put them away - even things that didn’t belong to him. After all, he had three daughters.
Then one morning, the man awoke and remembered his dream. “I am very sad,” he said to his best friend.
“Why?” asked his friend.
“Because I once dreamed of marrying a tall woman, with black hair and blue eyes who would play the guitar and sing. My wife can’t play the guitar or sing. She has brown eyes, and she’s not tall.”
“Your wife is very beautiful and very kind, “said his friend. “She creates splendid pictures and delectable food.” But the man wasn’t listening.
“I am very sad,” the man confessed to his wife one day. “Why?” asked his wife. “Because I once dreamed of living in a big house with a veranda, and of having two saint Bernards and a garden out back. Instead I live in an apartment in a high rise building.”
“Our apartment is comfortable and we can see the ocean from our couch,” said his wife. “We have love, laughter and paintings of birds and a fluffy cat-not to mention three beautiful children.” But the man wasn’t listening.
“I am very sad,” the man said to his therapist. “Why?” asked the therapist. “Because I once dreamed that I would grow up to be a great adventurer. Instead, I am a bald businessman with a bad knee.”
“The medical supplies you sell save many lives,” said the therapist. But the man wasn’t listening. So his therapist charged him $110 and sent him home.
“I am very sad,” the man said to his accountant. “Why?” asked the accountant. “Because I once dreamed of driving a red Ferrari, and never having to tidy up myself. Instead, I take public transportation and sometimes I still have to clean up.”
“You wear good suits. You eat at fine restaurants, and you’ve toured ,”said his accountant. But the man wasn’t listening. His accountant charged him $100 anyway. He was dreaming of a red Ferrari himself” I am very sad,” the man said to his clergyman. “Why?” asked the clergyman. “Because I once dreamed of having three sons: a great scientist, a politician and a professional athlete. Instead, I have three daughters and the youngest can’t even walk.”
“But your daughters are beautiful and intelligent” said the clergyman. “They love you very much, and they’ve all done well. One is a nurse, another is an artist and the youngest teaches music to children.
But the man wasn’t listening. He was so sad that he became very sick. He lay in a white hospital room surrounded by nurses in white uniforms. Tubes and wires connected his body to blinking machines that he had once sold to the hospital
He was terribly, tragically sad. His family, friends and clergyman gathered around his bed. They were all deeply sad too. Only his therapist and his accountant remained happy
THEN ONE NIGHT, when everyone except the nurses had gone home, the man said to God, “Remember when I was a boy and I told you all the things I wanted” It was a lonely dream,” said the God.
Why didn’t you give me those things?” asked the man ” I could have,” said God. “But I wanted to surprise you with things you didn’t dream of.” I suppose you’ve noticed what I ‘ve given you: a kind, beautiful wife; a good business; a nice place to live; three lovely daughters – one of the best package I ‘ve put together – “yes, “ interrupted the man. “Bur I thought you are going to give me what I really wanted “And I thought you were going to give me what I really wanted, “said the God “What did you want?” asked the man.
It had never occurred to him that God was in want of anything. I wanted to make you happy with what I’d given you, “said the God
THE MAN LAY IN THE DARK all night, thinking. Finally he decided to dream a new dream, one he wished he’d dream years before. He decided to dream that what he wanted most were the things he already had. And the man got well and lived happily in the high rise, enjoying his children’s beautiful voices, his wife’s deep brown eyes and her glorious paintings of birds. And at night he gazed at the ocean and contentedly watched the lights of the city twinkling on, one by one!
Source: Reader’s Digest- June 1993 (Condensed from ”Signs of the times”by Loren Seibold
